Lately I’ve been thinking about what specific incidents have led me to become a feminist and I really think I can attribute that to something I’d like to call “everyday sexism”. These acts are seemingly small but have long lasting impacts of the morale of a woman… I’m literally recalling incidents from over 10 years ago. One of the major issues that I’ve had is with my body; it has been over sexualized, criticized, hated, and loved. I’ve literally had people just come up to me and touch my butt because they “couldn’t resist.” ARE YOU KIDDING ME? This is my body and if you want to touch it you need permission, objectifying me? NOT SEXY. Getting my consent? SEXY. Some of my girlfriends with larger chests have say strangers (men AND women) literally walk up to them at the bar and poke their boobs, like it’s a toy that can be played with – it’s frustrating!
But it’s acts that are even smaller than that:
It’s calling a girl that speaks her mind a bitch.
It’s calling a woman that has multiple partners a slut.
It’s honking at woman when you drive by – but actually though, can y’all not?
It’s blaming receiving unwanted attention on the clothes a woman is wearing.
It’s making a joke that makes fun of women.
It’s accusing an emotional woman of being on her period.
It’s when a dude buys you a drink and automatically feels some claim to your body.
It’s a guy friend who hates you for constantly putting them in the “friend zone.”
It’s a partner who doesn’t even think to ask if you WANT to have sex for the simple reason you’re in a relationship.
It’s not being able to twerk with your pals without some dude trying to push up on you at a dance party.
It’s feeling guilty because you said, “No.”
It’s laughing even though that joke about women not knowing how to drive just isn’t f*cking funny.
It’s body shaming.
It’s any and everything that has made you question your worth as woman or even a person in this world.
All of these things just perpetuate this hate of women that I feel is so unintentional it makes my heart hurt. But I really feel with conscious mind and heart, these obstacles can be obliterated.
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